“TRUST”

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” –the late Steve Jobs

     Trust.  The word embodies everything in a relationship, yet conveys nothing about its complexity.  The word itself is easy to utter, yet the task itself can be overwhelming when confronted with the unknown.  What will the future hold?  How can I “trust” that it will turn out ok?  How do I know this is the “right” decision?  The stress and anxiety of making the “wrong” decision can seem paralyzing.  So what’s the solution?  Paradoxically, those who are in recovery know that trust is ultimately about surrender, surrendering and letting go of your will to control the outcome.  But how do you do this if you haven’t learned this skill before?  How do you take this leap of faith?  The truth is, you must take that leap of faith and in so doing, you will have crossed the threshold of surrender, which ultimately marks the beginning of your journey towards trust.

Starting Over

“We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. The old skin has to be shed before the new one can come.”


-Joseph Campbell

You never imagined you’d be here.  You’ve met others in your position but at the time “they” were the ones who were in recovery and needed help, not you.  But now, it’s your time.  You realize your life has been forever altered and will never be the same.  You must start over but you can’t stop thinking about the hurt, pain, and anguish you’re experiencing.  It’s as if you’re heart is as tender as a newborn baby’s skin, vulnerable to the slightest wound.  How do you protect yourself?  How do you move forward?  Where do you go?  Who will help you?  Where do you even begin?

As your mind is flooded with thoughts of shame and disappointment and your heart is pounding in abject panic, fear, and loss, the first place to begin in recovery is acknowledging these feelings.  Recognize they are there.  Don’t deny them, but accept them.  We dare say, even embrace them.